2. You wake up with the same person
3. You are too busy planning wedding, kids, house, ect to have fun
4. You can't have any variety
5. You are stuck doing the same thing every single day
6. Your personal freedom is limited.
7. You have to make a lot of pointless sacrifices
8. You are always dragged into doing something that you don't want.
9. Fight a lot
I can go on and on. Married life is so freakin depressing.What is so good about being married?
All but # 1and 3 apply in my caseWhat is so good about being married?
If this is your life then I would strongly urge you to get counseling with your husband because that is not what marriage should be. Then if things haven't changed, then it would be time to get out. But don't be so willing to throw it all away because you are feeling this way right now. Everybody goes through lulls, and every day isn't going to be this wild passionate love affair like it was when you were dating. However, there definitley should be more to it than what you've described. Also, remember marriage takes work on both sides and 2 major factors are communication and trust. Without the 2, there really isn't much of a foundation. It's sad but true that once a couple decides to marry they either had such big expectations and then feel disappointed or they begin to take the other for granted. Which is why communication is key. Remember, he can't read your mind anymore than you can read his. Good Luck!
I agree with you marriage has a lot of downs to it, although I believe I would still do it. For one reason, just to know that the same person you fell in love with is strong enough person to stay with you until the end of time and that they want to is amazing. Your life doesn't stop when you get married it reaches a new state. You have someone to try things with you, just be sure to find someone who is willing to do new things and life is so much better when the person you love is beside you.
I think only having one person is great because if there wasn't just one you would end up spending the rest of your life meeting new guys, dumping them, putting up with their crap, and the lies they will tell you. It's a life long cycle of chaos.
Being married can be fun, it just takes some effort and it's not as hectic as it seems, who says you have to have children?
Also it just feels good to know that he/she will be there to hold you when no one else will and at the end you'll be happy with your decision.
Marriage teaches you compassion, persistence, forgiveness, patience, love, tenacity, intimate communication skills, faithfulness and self-control.
If you don't have these going in - you don't have the character to be married and you will soon enough, not be.
This is what we are supposed to be and do as good human beings. Marriage teaches you how to be a good human being. Take a long, hard look at the 50% divorce rate pretty much around the world. What does this tell you about the quality of people that are being raised up?
This is the truth! Look at any of your friends that are separated / divorced and do a quick study of their demise. You will see little of what I listed above.
Also know - that it takes two!
If this is your marriage, then you should be depressed. Marriage offers freedom in ways that being single can't. Yes, both states of matrimony have their ups, but they also have their downs.
Suffice it to say if you chose your partner wisely, being with someone you can depend on, be yourself with is an amazing thing to be part of. Maybe you aren't cut out for marriage. If not, that's ok. Just be honest with yourself and your partner.
If you are bored, you are boring. YOU are responsible for your experiences. Do you think your wife is bored by you, too?
If you guys don't want to talk to each other and LISTEN, go to counseling and work on your marriage, then you need to split up. You aren't doing each other any favors by staying. If you have kids, then you need to do what is best for THEM.
Good luck.
Well, if you think like that,don't get married.
I on the other hand, would not feel complete as a person if I was not married, paying a mortgage and raising children.
Making love to and then waking up beside someone you love is more satisfying than the illusion of sexual freedom you seem to have. I still have fun, ride my bike, go drinking when I want, I do make sacrifices, but they're not pointless and we are working together to create a secure future for ourselves.
I would think that you are young and immature, and probably have seen some bad marriages, but I hope one day you'll find the right person and be as happy as I am.
1. Yes, don't have to worry about training another.
2. Yes, with the one you love, how wonderful.
3. Huh, there is great rewards in having a family, I find!
4. Yes you do if you have an imagination.
5. No not unless you are so boring and lacking in creativity.
6. Really, I have never seen it this way.
7. Not if you are a mature adult you learn compromise
8. Really, only if you are not a mature individual and unwilling and unable to speak honestly and openly.
9. No so!
I think you probably should remain single the rest of your life. I would feel so sorry for anyone you married. You seem no negative and miserable you would make anyone unhappy.
Life is what you make of it. Married or Single.
Sounds like you got married for the wrong reasons. The person that you choose to marry should be the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with and you can't wait to sleep with them everynight and do everything with them. Maybe you should rethink why you are married, b/c for most people it is bliss.
...I don't understand this. It's a great lifestyle,I'm 22,married,happy,and pregnant w/our second child. It doesn't hold true. You look for the person you want to have your life with,and not all of this crap is true. I know that we don't fight like that. We enjoy every waking moment together. It's not really the same thing everyday. We love it. Being married is NOT depressing. It makes more sense to me than going out, f***** every person on the block,and tearing up homes and lives. There's so much here that I totally don't agree with.
1 yes, that's a good thing
2- what's better than waking up every morning next to the person you truly love?
3- wedding was planned in a week, no kids, house is fine and we have tons of fun.
4 - just cuz you're with one person, doesn't mean there's no variety
5- we hardly ever do the same thing every day
6 - we do not limit each others 'freedom' for example, i'm going out with the girls tonight, he's going out With the guys
7 - no sacrifice is pointless
8 -like what?
9 - really, not that much fighting...
well then maybe you shouldnt be married. I love sleeping with my husbday every night. i wouldnt be able to sleep without him. And i love waking up and seeing his face every morning. I had a cheap wedding and loved every minute of it! I dont do the same thing every day. my husband and i both have our own freedom because we trust each other enough to give each other freedom. sacrifices happen in a marriage. It has to to help the marriage work. and if you fight a lot then like i said maybe you shouldnt be married/
No, that isn't marriage...that's a poor relationship.
A marriage is when you have someone that
1. Always has your back
2. You can always be silly with
3. Knows everything about you
4. Knows how to make your toes curl
5. Is always there when you feel lonely or need to talk
6. Shares your burdens
7. Makes you smile and feel grateful for them
8. Compromises
9. Gives you great legal benefits
10. Shares their money
11. Keeps you warm...
I could go on and on about how marriages are great...when you have the right person.
Yes, i agree. The list can become endless. Its always easy to find what we want to find.
Instead, marriage gives something which could never be purchased, borrowed or stolen.
Marriage is connection of two souls. Its something beyond physical connections what has been listed. Marriage teaches both the sides to have adaptability, patience, sacrifice, empathy, concerns. And above all it gives you chance to CHANGE (change for Good).
By giving away something, you will get much more.
And when you are alone in your life, marriage brings in the real support - emotional.............
Ooooohhhhhh my yes......She feels so perfect against you...No. 2 Thank ALL the stars she is more than a dream and is here to hold in the morning....No.3 You ALWAYS find a way to make it fun....No.4 You get a chance to use your imagination to keep things good. No.5 And a chance to do it even better. No.6 Free to give No.7 blah, blah, blah.....No.8 You can always be counted on No.9 Why ???
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No wonder your 16 year old talks to you in riddles. If you have this much disrespect for the institution of marriage, I can only imagine what kind of example you're being to him as a good father and husband.
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And your son's.
well i am so so sorry you feel that way but marriage is a great thing and it has tons and tons of perks to it!
when your married you have stability, emotional support and a commitment which is awesome!
It really depends on how you look at it, most people are looking for that someone special to spend their lives together do you really want to be alone
You haven't met the right person yet, when you do, it will all make sense.
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