Wow um, eventually it will come out, but for now just act like it never happened I know that's hard but you have to. I don't entirely know your situation or circumstances though.Already married but parents dont know. How do they not find out?
Divorce and then marry again? Why did you get married without your parents knowing?
I think you should just come clean.If you are old enough to get married then you are old enough to be responsile for your marrige.When you were getting married did you not think about their feelings and how you probably disappointed them.I think its time you just had a talk with them and come clean.
why would you do such a thing in the first place?
i'm sure you're old enough to know better than to lie to your parents, they will be heartbroken when they find out the truth, you could of caused them less pain by just telling them as soon as you planned on getting married.
ummm they're probably going to need to know eventually! in a few months tell them you didnt want to make a big deal about it and that you just eloped.
Ummm don't tell them it's kinda simple, as long as no one knows and your not going to say anything then they won't find out...but why would you go get married anyways knowing that your parents are throwing you a wedding, you could just tell them so that they don't have to waste anymore money on a wedding
its best thing if you will tell the truth
uh maybe just tell them
Just go through with the wedding, you'll get married twice, so what!!
First of all..parents are really naive so I would say just don't wear the ring and don't say anything to any one because news gets around.
There's so much I want to say here, but I will stick to answering your question directly.
There is no way to prevent them from finding out. You are already married, and it's a matter of public record. If they were suspicious and went looking for an answer, they could very easily find out. In addition, they're probably going to wonder why you can't get a marriage certificate (since you are already married).
Your date you got married is the Day you ';Secretly'; got married. Now, just dont say anything. People will be celebrating your anniversary, when they attended your ceremony and reception. Its normal to get married before the wedding. My husband and i did the same thing, just different reason. We were in love, and didnt need the whole Party and family who didnt care really. We were getting married because of our love, and companionship. Thats all we needed. After 3 years of Dating and living together...We were getting married. My husbands parents didnt like the fact that I wasn't Jewish or converting to Judaism, So they hold a grudge at me. Never said Congrats when we got engaged, just asked how much the ring costed. We told them $25. they were like thats good.lol It was a $2500 bridal set, that was discounted to 740 for valentines day. They were finding every excuse for us not to get married with a big wedding. So My Husband and I went to the courthouse 1 year and 1 month ago, and got married.
We thought it would be nice to tell them at their Christmas Party in front of my brother and Sister in law 2 months after we got married. They were shocked. They didnt know what to do, besides tell me Welcome to the family. I said thank you to his parents along with: ';Now your stuck with me until your death do you part';
Our whole year of our first marriage we've been so sick and we're going to do Vow Renewal, and Do the whole gown and tux thing next December 2010...GOOD LUCK!
Well, if they were suspicious they could easily find out because marriages are a matter of public record, and they will likely be suspicious when you can`t get a marriage license. The best thing to do is keep mum and `get` the marriage licence yourself.
Then why didn't you tell your parents? Sorry mate you are on your own. Your parents cared for ya to actually throw you guys a wedding but you had to go behind their back. Good luck with that
For once be honest with them.tell them.and go ahead with their plan. a gathering I suppose minus the wedding since you already had been.wed. This will make them happier .
Don't tell them.
Dedicating your life to another person is a very private decision. You chose to just ';get-er-dun';, right away, on your own. Congratulations.
It sounds like you didn't have a family reception though. Now it's time to spread the joy, assuming you're into it.
Tell your officiant that you want to renew your vows publicly. Tell him what else is going on too.
Tell your parents or don't.
It's not like they don't approve. You just have to figure out if they'll take the news better now, or later. Don't count on never .
If I was the daddy... Oh well, I missed it the first time around. I understand it wasn't me you were marrying. I'll get over it.
Can I throw you a party anyway? I'm sure I'll tear up at the ceremony and probably on the dance floor too. Is that ok? I'm happy for you. I don't think I'm ready for a baby shower yet though.
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They absolutely will find out on the day of the wedding when you tell your officiant that he cannot fill out another mariage license.
U should just tell them before they spent a fortune on ur ';wedding';. Or Just tell then that your not ready to get married.
Who has to know? Were you married at the courthouse alone? Won't it be nice to have a wedding?
Let your family celebrate your marriage with you. The legal part is over, now it's time for the party!! Just don't sign a second marriage certificate!
On a side note, I did the legal stuff in the courthouse the day before my wedding. A church wedding is about celebrating with family and making public promises of love and loyalty while surrounded by people you love. ';Marriage'; and ';Wedding'; are two different concepts.
well that's being very sneaky if you don't tell them if it were me I'd be Honest and tell them.
My sister and her husband got married 7 months before their wedding. They didn't tell anyone for several years. When some of the close family found out, they were very upset that they were not in on the secret (we're talking ten years later!).
I say, tell them!
You MUST tell your parents now, they may still want to throw you a reception, but why should you have them fork out a bundle of money on a wedding when you are already married?? They will be hurt if they find out afterwards.
IF YOU JUST GOT MARRIED YOU CAN NULL THAT MARRIAGE AND GET REMARRIED. OR IF YOU GOT MARRIED THROUGH THE COURT U SHOULD BE ABLE TO GET MARRIED THROUGH CHURCH NO PROBLEM.
dont tell them?
Best to 'fess' up now..they will eventually find out and when they do, especially if it's after the wedding they've paid for, they will be quite pissed and very hurt that they were not only cheated out of seeing you marry for real, but that they were deceived so you could do the big white pouffy wedding dress princess for a day thing. They will feel used and rightly so.
Shameful to deceive them in such a way...with that attitude, you don't deserve the wedding they are willing to pay for.
72 hours before the wedding the officiant will ask you to meet with him or her and provide the marriage license. you will not be able to provide. the s*%26amp;^ will really hit the fan then.
why are you wasting people's valuable time and money?
also, fraud will get you into legal trouble with your university financial aid and with the IRS. you are committing fraud, dear. Its a crime. have fun in federal prison!
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