Should we shorten the duration between meeting and married?

I don't date anymore. Why not just hang out and get to know eachother without sex etc. Figure out who the person is as a friend without sex complicating it then... Get engadged and set a date to get married no more than 6 months away! I think that would turn out to be pretty successful... What do you think?Should we shorten the duration between meeting and married?
I think that could work, especially if you work hard at doing thorough premarital counseling and do some serious consulting with those you trust and respect. Often others can see things in you and in the other person that you cannot see.





My husband and I met and we dated casually for about a month. He knew I wasn't making any type of exclusive commitments to someone who did not get approval from my parents first. Yes, I know I am old fashioned. But he did, even though we were both 28. And afterwards, he had us go through Dave Ramsey's financial peace course together (a long series to help you discuss your financial practices and goals as a couple). At 5 months, we were engaged, and dove into premarital counseling with a pastor that requires you to produce documented proof of education, finances, medical status, etc. Yes, we had each get an HIV test and show each other our credit report and our diplomas. We made a commitment to not have intercourse before marriage. When you make a commitment like that, engagement/courtship cannot last but so long. We were married 1 year and 3 months after we met. It has been wonderful because we went in with our eyes open, tried to do things the right way, and are accepting of each other's ';querks';.





A woman will respect you a lot for your values and understand that you are serious about making it work with the right person.Should we shorten the duration between meeting and married?
Theres a famous quote that says something along the lines of ';you can get to know someone in seven days, but others it takes seven years. I'm not sure that six months is enough time in general, to get to know a person so well that you are sure you will want to spend your life with them. As for the part about friends, yea, its very important that the person is your friend, you have to like them afterall! I don't think that this is something that should be or needs to be rushed though.