Did you discuss children before getting married or otherwise committing to a relationship?

Did you just fall in love and move in together or get married without ever discussing what you each wanted in a relationship and if you wanted children etc and how you would raise them or did you actually talk at length about this and find common goals of wants and don't wants before you committed to your partnership?Did you discuss children before getting married or otherwise committing to a relationship?
i was a player. i never took relationships seriously. then along came this guy (my husband now) whom while courting me, told me plans about a quaint house in a nice neighborhood, cute little kids that would look exactly like us, great education, family outings...


i was surprised! this was a part of a relationship that i never really considered: children, a family!


anyway, i married the man because i decided that maybe it is time to get serious. and he's given me all that he promised. 2 cute boys, a great education for them, lovely, simple trips around the country with our little family.


we're working together for the house part of his plan now.


it's great when you talk about things together. it gives you a better perspective of life, and a stronger commitment to work for it together. it gives your love a plan, a direction.Did you discuss children before getting married or otherwise committing to a relationship?
When my husband and i were dating we talked about what we wanted for our future like dreams, goals and kids, Luckily we both wanted the same thing. We agree 100% on the way we will raise our daughter and future kids. We also agreed on not having kids for a few years after getting married, we wanted to know each other as husband and wife before bringing a child into this world. I'm really glad we talked because I don't think i would be able to be with a person that didn't want kids or if we didn't agree on our lifestyle...


we're coming up on our 5 year anniversary and we have our first child that will be 1 year old soon. We're so happy we waited and looking forward to raising her together and doing all the things we talked about for years.
My husband and I talked about children prior to marriage. I had just turned 22 when I got married and my husband was 26. Honestly, I didn't want children until my late 20's. But I knew before marriage that my husband didn't want to be 30 when he had his first child. He'd always wanted to be a young father because his dad was too old to do much with him. So with my husband and I, we had to come to a compromise. It was something that was important enough to my husband that I knew I would either have to bend more, or we may not have worked because it was a huge deal for him. Before marriage, we agreed on general dates we were going to start trying and things that had to occur before we would.





Well, we ended up getting pregnant 10 months after we got married (we were aiming for a year after marriage, but it happened quicker than we expected when we started trying.) I am SOOO glad that I decided to start early. I tell my hubby often that my daughter is the best gift I ever received that I didn't know I wanted. We're now pregnant with our 2nd baby, and its me that was baby-driven this time. haha.





I think it really helped our family to know what we wanted ahead of time. We also were able to work out how we wanted to parent before getting pregnant... so we knew what our goals with our children were and the type of people we wanted to be with them.
Well my boyfriend and I had talked about it when we were in a commited relationship. We knew we wanted kids sometime in the future. But we aren't married but we are still together and have a baby girl who is 9mnths. We do have common goals that we are still striving to reach and hopefullly we will achieve them soon.
Yes, before we got married we said we wanted 4 kids. Having the first one was a challenge...I had to beg him, and the 2nd was an ultimatum (circumstances that are too much to explain now)...anyways, so I just got 2 of the 4 and I probably wouldn't have any now if I was not so insistant.
My husband and I talked about it two years into our relationship (we were high school sweet hearts kids were nowhere in our mind at the time). Before we got married we again discussed how many kids we want and when we would like to have them etc.. We still don't agree 100% on how kids should be raised but nothing major.
Yes, we discussed hopes, goals and values while we were still dating. It made it so much easier when we finally did have children because our beliefs were so similar in how we wanted our children raised.