Has anyone been invloved with a married man who left his wife for you?

It seems like all affairs end because the wife finds out and regardless of how in love the affair couple were, the husband never leaves. Does he? Has anyone been invloved with a married man who left his wife for you?
I was the other woman and from my experience the husband never leaves his wife. He would rant and rave about how miserable he was and how he wished she was dead, but he wouldn't leave because he was too afraid to move on.





I honestly believe the reason they don't leave is because of fear. Fear of the unknown and being alone. It is easier to remain in an unhappy marriage knowing you'll always have someone around to help pay the bills, take care of the kids and so forth than taking a chance at being happy.





Personally, if I dated someone that cheated on me, I would dump him, because even though he claims he loves me and is sticking around, I know he really doesn't and is just hanging on because he is lonely and a loser.Has anyone been invloved with a married man who left his wife for you?
Yes. My husband left his wife, for me, sort of. He was planning to leave her, but I was the final straw, but I would not be with him or even write to him until he had left her and the divorce was well on its way (she was a bit of a slacker). I know people say once a cheater always a cheater, but I hope that's not true. But he had already joined the army and told her he was leaving before he made any move on me.
I am the wife that discovered my husband cheating on me with his mistress. I confronted him and demanded an explanation, he told me that he owed me nothing. For months prior to this all he ever stated was that he wanted a separation and I fought it. Once I had proof I filed for divorce and he would not leave, after 10 months of hell the courts finally told him to get out. The divorce is final now and wouldnt you know it just one month after it was final the mistress dumped him. He is now a 45 year old divorced father of two living in the basement of a house. I live in the house, he pays me child support, I get half his pention, the children are not happy with him, I also get half his deferred comp. This is a good example of what can happen to you if you think with the wrong head and the wife is strong enough to handle the battle. It has not been easy but I am much, much better without him.
I personally have not but I do have a friend who's husband left her after a fifteen year marriage and five children for the local town drunk with a bad reputation. He doesn't even call ';his'; kids for their birthdays but is trying to be a father to the children of his new life who each have different dads, what's wrong with this picture?


What you should consider is if there are children involved, who ';needs'; this man more you or them? What kind of person do you want to be? If this man is already lying to his wife about you, what makes you think he won't lie to you?


Choose wisely.........



I was talking to a married guy on-line then we found out we lived close to each other. Then started talking on the phone he told me he loved me and wanted to leave his wife and one day SHE called me she found my number and told me he left her, and then maybe 30 minutes later he called from a payphone and told me he left her and asked me what to do I told him to go back to his wife.. I was very shocked he left her...I learned my lesson...They got back together and she broke his computer...
The husband doesn't leave the marriage because he isn't looking to split half is net worth, sell the house, pay child support and then marry the other woman. He isn't looking for a wife just a little fun outside of marriage. Besides, if he will cheat with you....and he divorces he wife and marries you....that just leaves a new opening for the ';other woman.'; He usually doesn't leave his wife.
I do not think the man will ever leave his wife! The fun is the sneaking around and the lying and the cheating. Actually a man who cheats on his wife is cheating the wife and the oher woman.





The man may actually love the other woman but his committment will always be to the woman at home. Especially if childen are involved the man will probably not leave.
yes the husband sometimes leaves,and its the wife who gets abandoned and brokenhearted.my ex left me for his affair, totally devastated me i had no idea. they say the wife is the last to know and its true.it can just as easily be the other way around, and the mistress ends up with what belonged to someone else.
My husband is divorcing me...he did have an affair, but I am pretty certain that the affair really didn't have much to do with his decision to divorce me. So in my situation-maybe, maybe not. But I have read somewhere that only 10% of people end up with the people that they cheated with...I think I googled it or something.
I *hear* that MOST married men do NOT leave their wives to be with their ';mistress'; (sorry to call you that, but I couldn't think of another word). But I also know that it sometimes happens...





It depends on if children are involved, and alimony/child support, etc. Many guys will avoid that at all costs :) especially if you are providing what he wants on the side already, why make a change?
the husband never leaves. he will tell you his marriage has been over for years, they never have sex and she doesn't understand him. he will tell you the only reason he stays is for the children. why would he leave? he has a wife and children at home, and a woman on the side that believes everything he says.
On PLEEZ let me get my hands on on this question! I have been on both sides of the spectrum - as the OW (other women) and as the BW (burned wife.)





As an OW, we dated for three years (I was in my early 20s and he was in his mid 30s). He did not leave his wife and, to this DAY, let me tell you - they don't even live together. They live like .. three friggn hours apart.





Our affair ended after I turned 25 - he said he was miserable but never left her.





Now ... forward nearly 15 years later (today) and he now wants to date me - gee ... heard THAT story before. They don't leave their spouse - period.





Now, my husband had an affair and I FOUND OUT - that was two years ago. I actually moved out and he came BEGGING and I mean BEGGING back for forgiveness.





I figured God was punishing me for some unholy thing I 'm sure I did to someone else earlier - who knows (let's not even go there because that's really not the point of my telling you this.)





He had this woman BELIEVING he was gonna leave me and marry her - he even spent three ';business trip'; weekend ( my ***) with her. She was so gullible that it made me look like a saint.





First, my affair was young and nieve (I was only 23). This affair my husband had with this woman ... she was 38.





He worte her letters of ';love'; and she wrote some dumb *** poetry - I saw the e-mails. She even had the never to CALL HIM THREE MONTHS LATER to see if he was planning on moving in with her - AFTER he dumped her and AFTER he even brought me to her drive way so I could ';witness'; the dumping.





Bottom line ... men do NOT leave their wives. The wives are a ';sure thing'; and the OW is NOT. Also, the wife, he knows her - through and through. The OW ... he knows her in a CHEATING situation.





Some may say I was foolish to take him back - others may say, that was holy of me. Either way - it will not happen to me again - this was his one shot.
Cheating dogs rarely leave their wives for their mistresses. All she is to him is an unpaid whore, and so long as she places no demands on him and continues spreading her legs when he tells her to, their ';relationship'; continues. But make no mistake about it; they rarely leave their wives and families to marry a dirty hose-bag.
No I would never get involved with someone married....





But I know someone that cheated on his wife with someone else (she was also married) - they left their spouses/messy divorce/alimony/child support - they are married now. But marriages/common law relationships based on an affair only have a 7% chance of surviving to 15 years. So I guess what goes around comes around for those people.





People can be very heartless
I know of a friend who was involved. This situation is as old as the world. The illegal woman waiting for the man to leave his house for her sake. As a grown up you are waiting for Santa Claus to make your day. It is time to wake up. Get your own man and you will not be broken hearted.
Are you delusional if he was so in love with the other women he would leave. In fact if he was so in love with the other woman it seems the wife shouldn't be able to find out anything because he would leave automatically.
no honey he never leaves. haven't you ever heard ';it's cheaper to keep her';? and why would u want him to leave his wife to start a relationhip with u that's built on a lie?
Yeah I married my affair lover, wished I didn't. Let go now because payback is a b.... Surely you don't think there are no consequences?
the husband never leaves. Why should he?
yes... but apparently it is few and far between.






been there . . . done that..... think about this.......


if he will do it WITH you ..... he will do it TO you.....move on dear