How does a couple stay married for 30 plus years?

I am just curious what a relationship is like when people stay together for long long periods of life. i can never imagine being with anyone for so long, probably cuz i never seen my mom and dad together or any family for that matter.How does a couple stay married for 30 plus years?
The secret is an open marriage.How does a couple stay married for 30 plus years?
I think a big part of it is the people that stay together know that it's not always going to be fun %26amp; exciting. Things will reach a point where the relationship feels comfortable - like an old shoe that fits - rather than sexy - but when they get to that point, they don't run out to find a new fling to remedy that feeling of comfortableness. They appreciate the friendship layer of their relationship that lies underneath the layer of sexuality, and it keeps them going until they have a season of sizzle again.





I think the people that succeed at marriage have abolished the word divorce from their vocabularies - it just simply isn't an option for them. I also think those people are far less likely to casually flirt, because flirting does lead to -!cking. Marry somebody with a wondering eye, and you're in huge trouble.





Also, I think how you catch 'em is how you keep 'em. In the days past when more people were likely to wait until they were married to have sex, we saw fewer divorces - and that was LARGELY because divorce was taboo, but I think it was also because people were testing each other's character during the dating process. They weren't blinded by the good sex while dating - they had to look deeper into the person to see if that person was worth spending a lifetime with. The same concept holds true today - if you're dating somebody, %26amp; the best part about the relationship is the sex, then your marriage won't stand a chance, you've got to be a person of character %26amp; marry someone of character, or you'll never be able to marry knowing that your spouse isn't screwing around on you, which we all know leads to so many breakups.
Commitment, compromise, compassion, and compatibility.


Commitment to making it work, long term. Being prepared to give it more than 50% - to give it 100%.


Compromise on those things that you can't agree 100% on. Give a little, get a little.


Compassion. Realising that neither are perfect and being able to forgive the imperfection in yourself and in your partner.


Basic Compatibility. If you have nothing in common, what is it you can share long term? How do you survive if you don't want similar things? How can you work together, when you don't have the same goals?
Marriage is a life long effort and not goal to where you stop once getting married. Getting to know your partner is a key as well because it eliminates the chance for arguments and stay on the same goals and values. As the relationship matures the love grows and values for the relationship as well. See if you find some people who have been married hat long and ask them what makes them stay together you will be very surprise by their answers.
My in laws have been married I think 36 years this year, I am convinced it is only because they are so fricking stubborn. :) Aside form that it is because they view everything as an ';us against the world'; scenario and assume they will work it out together. I don't think the idea that divorce was an option has ever occured to either of them and honestly I think that in and of itself makes it work.


My husband jokes all the time, that no matter what happens we are stuck with each other so if we need to change something or fix something, fine, but we are changing it or fixing it together. Having that kind of faith in our marriage has kept it healthy for quite a while. We aren't at 30 years yet, but we hit 11 a few months ago and we aren't even 30 ourselves yet. (Almost)
Have your parents or any family members had friends for that long? Seriously... just because its marriage doesn't mean its that much different then a strong friendship, in fact thats what makes a marriage last... becoming the best of friends that stick by each others side good and bad.
My parents were married for over 40 years before my dad died, and I am sure all of those years were not wonderful and full of bliss. You have to work together on everything. People are still committed to each other no matter what you see or hear.
Communication, love, committment, trust, working out problems together, faithful..........and throwing the word ';divorce'; out of your vocabulary!





Never taking things for granted and most important.......letting God be in control of your marriage!
i think it just takes a lot of love. when u r truly in love with someone, that love doesnt go away after a few years. it stays with you. im sorry about you parents, maybe they just weren't meant for each other.
very carefully... =P





Some people say the secret is to be reserved somewhat so you have separate lives, but you share most of your life with your significant other.
i dont knoe they just really love each other and cant live wth out one another my parents been together for 16 years and still gonin
Love, Honor. and Trust...you lose one, you lose it all
by looking the other way.
they don't go to bed mad - they stay up and fight it out
20 years with my wife - still really fun - we work really hard at making each other happy