I am in college and married. Is it to stressful to start having a family and have a husband and be in college?

I have been with my fiance since 6th grade. We are not married yet but will be soon. We are both attending the same college. We both are studying to become ministers. We are also planning on doing quite a bit of missionary work in Africa once we graduate from college. My only preoccupation with starting a family the year after we get married is that after we graduate we will be moving to Africa and around the world for the time it will take for my children to grow up. So, we are definantly having children, that is not the question, but if it is a good idea to start having them while we are in college will be to much. We want 5-6 children when it all said and done. We both grew up in large families and love having all that chaos (good and bad) in the house that goes along with large families. I love my fiance more than I could ever express to any of you and i would love nothing more than to have children together, but if it will be to much is something that only parents can answer.I am in college and married. Is it to stressful to start having a family and have a husband and be in college?
Pray and get a couples outline(like a bu get or goals plan) to help you think this out. You need to wait until graduated to marry. Give yourself to your studies and know yourself well before marriage. Discuss thoroughly all the questions about how are you both wanting to raise the kids, finances, pay medical bills and how reliable are the clinics/hosp. in Africa where you will be whether it is for you two or before, during pregnancy and after the baby, who's family to visit on which holiday( believe me -it is a biggie), will you raise the babies strict, spank, praise them, or be too busy to live and learn from them and teach them and play with them.If you are asking strangers about this it doesn't seem that you have done your homework on a relationship that you want to last forever!What will happen if one of you die, will the other one be equipped to handle Africa as a single parent of one to six kids? Talk about stress. Please wait and become comfortable with your spouse before adding children, maybe a year or two,especially since you will be away from loved ones and their help.Serving the Lord is a great service, so is parenting, working, college, and marriage -just space them out a little to allow yourself the time and energy to be able to succeed at all that you do! God be with you!I am in college and married. Is it to stressful to start having a family and have a husband and be in college?
Children change relationships. I know 'cause I have a 1 yr old and my husband and I hardly get any time together.





You seem to have a lot on your plate right now. I'd hold off on the children for now. Atleast until you all get married and get stable jobs. Besides completely taking over your every waking and sleeping time, kids demand alot of monetary support... you have no idea how much kids stuff cost... my son's shoes cost more than my own!!!





I'd advise you to atleast finish college, that way when your kids start coming along, you can devote more time to them without having to worry about slipping grades...





Good luck and I hope you make the best decision for yourself... and remember, playing with someone elses babies is 100% nothing like having a baby 24/7. Ever notice how parents are quick to hand over their babies for a few mins?? It's not cause they don't want them but it's 'cause they have so much to do and would grab any chance to get it done...
Children are great but big responsibilities. Who will help you to care about them while you are trying to attend your school and also looking after your husband. Hard work. From my side, think twice.
I think you are confused,the best concert on your studies.You wants to minister and you can not get out of your confusion.Take your Deccan's with cool head.
go for it. i'm in college (full time) and i have a husband and one child (9months) it's VERY hard to do it all but it possiable to do. i even keep up the house and have a 4.0 grade average..





if you want to have children now.. just have one. for awhile then move on to the second
DON'T DO IT!!! Every single one of the things you say you want to do - standing alone - are very, very stressful (ie, finishing college, having a litter of babies, and traveling to a foreign county doing missionary work)!! Put them all together, and you have a definite recipe for DISASTER!! In my humble opinion, dragging your babies to a foreign country (especially an underdeveloped country like Africa) would not only be stupid, but would actually be irresponsible, and bordering on child abuse! There are diseases there for which you will not have given them any natural immunities,, and it is very likely that medical facilities are going to be non-existent, or very poor, in the areas where you will be doing your missionary work. So, although your dream package is a noble one, it is very impractical, irresponsible, and a VERY BAD IDEA. Do all of these things, but one at a time And having a stable of babies should be what you do last, after college is finished, the missionary work is through, and your relationship is stable and strong. I am not an expert, so this is just MHO. But no matter what you do, Good Luck.
i think is best to wait till you finish school. because when baby comes you are going to have to put more time on the baby then other things. and wait till you settle down a bit and things would be Lot easier
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No i think its best to waite till after college starting a family know would be difficult, devote your time now for your studys
Wait until you just get out of college, do your procreating, and there you go. Good Luck ^_^
Well I am a mother of one little girl who just turned 2 and she is the best thing that has ever happend to us. But having kids is alot of work and cost alot of money and they need alot of your time. Her father and I have aranged our work schedules so she doesn't have to go to daycare which for us that was a must we didn't want her to be raised by someone else and for her I think it has worked out for the best. So with that being said it would be best to wait until your done in college I have many friends that were very determind to finish school and have kids while in school and never ended up finishing so please get your education first kids are great but with out and education it makes things alot harder then the already are.
Wait until you are done with the traveling. You know how much work kids are? How much responsibility? How guilty you would feel if youa re away from your family? I mean it is their grandkids too and you will keep them away by being so far away. Also the cost. Wait wait wait.... We have two kids and I am an import from the Netherlands. I first did the traveling settled down, bought a house and saved. Now I can stay home with the kids and give tehm the parent they deserve my full attention. I am no longer pre occupied with saving the world, seeing the world, and the wild feather is gone. Also you can get very sick being pregnant then you will be stuck in AFrica, Also You really don't know how many kids you want until you have them. I wanted 4 initially but after seeing how much work it is and how sick one can get we stopped at 2. (and how expensive they are).


Hope this helps. Also you need time as a couple to get settled into your life after school. Trust me when you ar ein college and have kids something will have to give and that will be college.
if that is what you want to do then i would waite on haveing children it would not be good on you or them they will need a steady home / so have fun while you can
You should tell him how you feel and see what he says.
Wait enjoy yourself while you can. Allow yourself to mature first..


How about that.
When you and your husband have settled down with your travelling. Definetly wait until you are well out of college. Trust me, you'll be happier in the long run.
i think you should wait until both of you are settled down
There is never a good time or enough money, the best thing to do is just go with the flow, you know what you can and can't handle I'm not sure if you are religious or not but god won't give you things you can't handle
it is very difficult to have children and to study. I know if for afact. so,if you can wait till you graduate and settle down, you will


1. have better grades


2. have time to concentrate on your studies and not on a sick/ colicky/crying/etc child


3. graduate Summa *** laude


4/ be happier





after I had my children, I have tried to begin postgraduate studies 3 times and i always have had to quit.


Maybe when THEY are in college i can begin my studies





don't get me wrong, my children are the best thing to happen to me, i love them very much, and I love being a mother
Some people can do it but I'd wait. Babies are incredibly needy and take so much work--like the last week of the semester when you have a paper due in every class and exams--but more! I think it might be easier to wait a little longer, but only you know what's best for you.
I'd wait until your graduated and have experienced africa a bit. You'll just kind of know when the right time is. You need to do some fun memories together before you have children. I loved my children but they suck all your free time and if you really want to serve others in a missionary field there just wouldn't be time for the proper devotion your job will take at first.
Wait until you finish studying. Don't wait until you finish traveling. In women the fertility begins to drop at arround 35 years old and it becomes increasingly more difficult to concieve. Stress can add to this. I have seen young people more and more having to go for IVF for this very reason. This is also very stressful. Try to draw a happy medium and relex. Your children can travel with you. This type of education is much more beneficial to life than anything they can learn in a class room
Starting a family is very stressful if you are not prepared. You need to make sure that you can afford thier basic needs (because if you are not Donald Trump then really you cannot afford children). Plus you need to have some husband wife time alone no children. Give it a two to three years to start having babies. You have plenty of time.
sweetie, everything is fine and good now, but trust me, when you two decide to have a baby. all future plans will be canceled, rearranged, and put on hold and nothing will ever go as expected ever again. if you want to have children, and lots of them, expect to be home bound unless you can afford a nanny and not plan on taking any of your children with you. if you travel with an infant, he/she will get sick so quick it will just ruin your travel plans and more importantly the child may end up with an unknown virus and nobody wants that to happen. when you start your family you will need someone to do missionary work and help you out. I'm sure both sides of your family will be a big help but you two are the parents and a baby is not just something to have and throw on your back and carry across the globe. if you like, finish school, do all your work, take lots of pictures then when you two are finished running around, have your babies and show them pictures of what mom and dad used to do and may take them there one day when they can appreciate it.
If you love her and you are ready to make that commitment, go for it. But starting a family in college is very stressful, because most of time people are broke, and they need to support the needs of the baby, so they end up dropping out. Because think about it: Is there enuff time in the day to eat three times, go to class, go to work, and raise a child? I think not. So something has to give. My best advise to you is to wait to start a family after you graduate. It will save you lots of STRESS and money in the long run.
Yes it is, my cousin did that and she's having all kinds of problems.
What college r u at. Do u know any gymnasts that attend the college. I love gymnastics.
I have three children, when I went back to college they were 4,3,and 2 it took me four years to complete a two year degree. it is very stressful to go to school but it can be done if you can deal with the stress, and it will be stressful. With the traveling, I would get a doctor's advice but newborns have a lot of shots to get and they will be in and out of doctor appoitments for thier immunaztion shots but if you go somewhere where they can provide the shot then you should not have a problem.
Slow Down....phew. You've got me tired. And wait on the baby. Kids hate traveling. And once you have a baby you'll stop at about 4 kids. I have two and I'm willing for one more.
Statistically, those that wiat for marriage have more successful unions. College graduates divorce less as well. Wait until you both have finished school before getting married.