Is Being a Single Mother OK or Should Women Strive to Get Married Before Having Children?

I've seen a stat that says 1 in 3 babies in the US are born out of wedlock. Is this a problem? Or does our society need to accept single motherhood?Is Being a Single Mother OK or Should Women Strive to Get Married Before Having Children?
Who cares what society thinks, if you have the means to properly care for a child and that is what you want then have one!!! If I could do it all over again I would have had my OWN children so I didn't have to compromise with a moron on how to raise them.Is Being a Single Mother OK or Should Women Strive to Get Married Before Having Children?
It's not a problem for me. I'm perfectly capable of raising my daughter on my own, but I am fortunate that her Father is very involved in her life.


Marriage isn't always a good thing. I chose to be single after my daughter's birth, because I didn't want her growing up to think living in a loveless miserable marriage was the way things had to be. I'm a better Mom now that I am on my own.
If the mother has the means to support the children, still have time to raise and know them, demonstrate qualities such as strength and independence as well as close friendships with other grown ups, and provide the child with other male role models, I see no problem.
Im proud to be a single mother. We are not bad people. Society needs to change like the times. Oh and single mothers ROCK!!!!!!!!
Coming from a man... Don't stress yourself out to be happy. Enjoy yourself. Smell the roses and enjoy having peace. Don't count on a man.





Who's crazy idea was it that everyone should be married and follow the same path? Were not cattle.
Society accepts it, although it can pose problems.





I have no opinion. If the life you have with a spouse is causing more (ligitimate) harm than good, then get out. Otherwise. Is IS WITHOUT A DOUBT the RIGHT thing to do, to give children a loving home with 2 parents.





That doesn't always work out, and I understand that. But 2 loving, involved parents IS the best outcome.
justagirl -- the PROBLEM is, MOST mothers are not able to fiancially care for their child out of wedlock on their own. A lot of them are being born to low educated mothers. You should strive to be able to financially support all kids with a good quality of life more so than worry about marriage. Marriage just allows you a bit more of a financial safeguard because there can be two incomes.
I think in an ideal world every baby would have two parents but this is not an ideal world
Hmm just because you are single doesn't mean the father isn't involved. I have son with my ex-husband and a daughter out of wedlock and I know what the world fews me as but I don't need anybody's pity. I have a great job and my own place and don't depend on welfare in anyway. Both my kids father are involved in their child's life so no matter what anybody says my kids are loved and taken care of. I don't know if they should except it but I know they should stop judging others before you walked a mile in someone else's shoes.
Do you honestly believe that the problem is that women didn't push the marriage envelope enough? Give me a break. I bet the number of women who set out to be a single parent is a small percentage of the single parent population. Couples break up, they divorce, partners leave, or are abusive and their partners HAVE to leave. There have been single parents since the beginning of time, society SHOULD accept it.





Are children being born out of wedlock a problem? No. Some couples never marry, some couple cannot marry. Just because a parent is single, that doesn't mean they're doing it alone.





Are there uneducated low income single parents, yes. Are there uneducated low income married parents? Heck yes. Does that mean every single or married parent is uneducated and unable to provide for their children? No. It'd be great if people would open their eyes and accept the fact that every single parent household isn't a drain on the govt, or that the children are doomed to be psychologically traumatized, or that the parent is an uneducated idiot.
Becoming a single parent on purpose is a stupid idea, imo. Even if you have a $50 million trust fund, having someone else to discuss parenting tactics with is healthy, rather than just doing whatever you want without anyone else's feedback. Now, this doesn't necessarily mean that the parents have to be married, or that both primary caregivers have to be the parents, but raising a child alone on purpose is just not the best situation. Yes, if your spouse turns abusive it's better to split up than let the kid or yourself be beaten, but that's different from never trying to find someone to begin with.





FWIW, most of the kids born out of wedlock are not born to single mothers - their moms are just not married, but are often cohabitating with the other parent.