Personally, I think you will find it very hard indeed. I would think twice.
making everyone happy, means not being able to live on your own terms and unless you are OK with compromising your life away, give it a go.
Good luck.What are the secrets of happy married life?
MARRIAGE IS TRUST
Marriage is love
Marriage is understanding
Marriage is sacrifice.
In any relation the more you give the more you get.
Be it love, hate or abuse.
Keep low profile till you are in control of anything.
A new bride is always under scrutiny. Every one want her to be best of the group, in every respect.
Even if it is for acting, behave properly, create a good impression that lasts for the life time.
Start it with husband, mother-in-law and with all others in the family.
As for the sake of husband, feed him with good food, good words and good servings in the night.
Work hard to fulfill his dreams of a good wife.
There are no secrets ..
only hard work
hard work
and hard work.
The two people that get married have to constantly work at the
marriage, and leave outside interference, outside the marriage.
If love, support, commitment, communication, trust, take place and
is constant within the marriage,then the marriage will work, how do
I know, well married for over 22yrs, all the above has and is still
taking place, but the key here is both parties have to do it.
It looks like you have a rocky road ahead. You will be in a situation you have no experience of with people you may find drive you nuts. Will your husband side with you or them if there is difference of opinion? What if you dont get on with his mother ? You may do now but what is you fall out? You are used to being independent and being your own person it will be so different. Its hard enough when first married (different to what you think )to get used to each other let alone the family as well. Oh dear please think carefully about this.
I am 101% promising that you will NOT be happy in that family. They are different than you. More over you have arranged marriage so your in law will want you to do what THEY WANT TO DO.
I am telling you sister. I won't mislead you about this. I have seen this with my very own eyes. You still have time to cancel this because you are not gonna be happy. I am telling you.
I hope you good luck.
May god bless and may you become 1 out of 50 couple who gets success in arranged marriage.
First tell yourself that you are one of the responsible member of the family. Find your parents in your guys parents..If you respect his parents his love towards you will definitely grows. Find your friends in his brothers and sisters so that your word will be respected and your advise is sought. You should always do things in such a manner of assurance that your concern for the family is genuine. Just Love them whole heartedly you will be loved. Good Luck.
Marriage lasts on mutual understanding. Both of you promise in the first night that ';we will never keep silence more than one hour after a fight %26amp; will say sorry to each other even I am right. He and his family is all yours now. Joint families are more social. Be friendly with your age group, respect to elders and love to children. Always share your problems with elders.
understand each one at ur new place...and make things happier for them...thats general..
in ur life...understand ur husband..make him feel loved..give him his space in life, be what he wants u to be wid him...and all in gods hand..pray..because i am also getting married...and i think how much ever u take help around the globe b4 marriage...ur situation is going to be a different one..but i think and i am sure from my experiences of life i think a lot of hard work on understanding ur partner will help u make a better life..because we all are going to live wid a person we do not know( i am going) i don't know abt u..ok howmuch ever u know the person b4 marriage after the marriage,everything is going to change...god bless..wish u happy married life and success in life too..an advise i could give is read a lot of relationship articles u can get on internet..books..it will really help you..for the first step...
trust your partner, be loyal to each other, be true to each other ,be helpful and share every thing with each other. we have to compromise and adjust according to the family guidelines.
You need to find trust in him and his family,
and also, you may need to change a few things about yourself to make them and YOU happy, as he should do the same.
most importantly
LOVE LOVE LOVE
Well,
Seeing as it is an arranged marrige,
try spending time with your fiance's family and see what they are like.
You never know.
Good sex.
Communication.
Trust.
Laugh allot together.
Understanding, love, affection and little Adjustment will make your married life full of joys
Therapy. Lots of it.
There are no ';secrets';.
Good luck.
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Help me plz!! Thanx :)
TRUST:)
That really is a secret
in one word - LOVE all
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