How do you explain being celibate and married?

How do you explain to your partner that you are considering celibacy and would like them to join? Is it possible to be married and celibate?





KandiceHow do you explain being celibate and married?
there's a scripture form the Bible pertaining to the exact thing and it tells married people not to stay ';away'; from each other too long for temptations sake,it says in 1 Corinthians 7:5


';Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.';How do you explain being celibate and married?
That's a tough one. If you've been married a long time, you might be at that point where your emotional intimacy is strong enough. But I think sexual intimacy with your spouse is truly one of the best things about being married.





The bigger question is why all of a sudden are you thinking about celibacy. That begs the question if you are truly happy in the relationship or whether one or both of you are either cheating or suspect the other of cheating. Either way, a move away from intimacy, even if the two of you do not have very good sex, is an indication that there is a rift that may need mending.





You didn't leave much detail in this. It could also be that you have recently experienced a sexual trauma that your husband may or may not know about or maybe that you have reached a point where sex is no longer a priority in your life.





There simply isn't enough detail about your situation to completely answer your question, but it certainly requires some deep discussion with your husband and likely, a counselor.
I'm sorry, but you're going to have to explain it to ME before I can advise you on how you explain it to your partner. Sex is an important part if a marriage. It's entirely possible to be married and to be celibate, but you'd better have some strong and convincing and real reasons to want to be celibate. Off the top of my head, I can't think of one good reason any person would need to be celibate during a marriage. It's not very fair to your partner, really.
I have no idea how you explain it because I can't imagine someone who is in love with their spouse wanting to exclude such an intimate part of their relationship. I believe that a healthy sex life is one of the ingredients in a healthy marriage. I can't see being celibate ever bringing a couple closer.





But hey, if you try it and it works for you, then more power to ya.
Sex in a marriage is important, however there are more important things. Like having a connection outside the bedroom. My husband went celibate on me for a good 3 weeks. But we talked it out and I listened to why he wanted to do it. I think if he respects you he'll do it, but you shouldn't make it a LONG term thing, talk to your partner and agree on how long and why. Just be blunt and honest. Thats what my husband did.
It is possible but only if both people want to be celibate. You can't go from a sexual relationship and then tell your partner you want to be celibate and expect them to be OK with that. If you don't want to have sex then you probably shoudn't be in the relationship.
And what enlightenment would be gained by such an experience?


Intimacy is the ultimate closeness you can share. If your truly looking at getting closer I suggest looking at other cultures views of intimacy. Certainly make it a challenge you can share in.





Absence makes the heart grow fonder not abstinence.
Absolutely not, sex is part of marriage, you can't change the rules and say no more sex. I question why you want to be celibate now, are you not attracted to him, were you abused when you were young? I think you have some soul searching to do, but don't penalize your husband.
Yes it is possible, but I think your hubby will be very upset, unless this was something that was discussed before marriage. My hubby would never agree to this, he can not keep his hands off me. I could go w/o since I did for 18 mths when he was in Iraq. I had three kids to take care of. so I did not even think about sex. Of course now that he is home we have regular relations, it is part of marriage.
That would not work in my house for either of us. I would bet that he is not going to take it well and you cannot blame him. You should have told him this before he married you.
What purpose would that have?





Honestly ask yourself that.





In my opinion, you are suggesting something that does not make sense.





I feel so sorry for your husband. And that is an honest statement, not just saying it.
I think ur going to have a very very hard time finding a partner to marry who also wants to be celibate, if not impossible. I have never heard this before. Y wud u want that??
If you want to be celibate then you shouldn't be married because that's unfair to your husband and i'm sure he will definitely not go for the idea.
Of course it is possible, doesn't make any sense, but you can do it.
Celibate and married? That's often happens when you're married a long time... not always by choice though....
He is so going to be getting some else where lol
then why would you want to get married?
Why in the world would you want that?